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How Many Blessings Have You Tossed Back Not Realizing The Value Of Friendship?


A friend of mine sent me this thought provoking note. I had to really ponder over it because it made me think of all the times that I misjudged someone or was misjudged; both based on assumption. Instead of really getting to know the person and appreciating the gift that was sent into my life; their true essence and treasure was tossed aside as not being valuable enough to be valued. I have learned that everyone is a gift to someone. It hurts very deeply to be rejected based on assumption. I wonder how many blessings we have passed up because we did not take the time to get to know a person for ourselves. I know this all too well because I am a person that can be easily misunderstood if you do not get to me.

Let’s be honest. We need one another. We need fellowship with God and each other. This is how our purpose is executed in the earth. It is how we fulfill our destiny.

It is so sad to think that everyday someone dies alone. Not having loved enough, laughed enough or lived enough. The Lord says in James 4:14: Whereas you know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor, that appears for a little time, and then vanishes away. He also tells us: Do not judge so that you will not be judged. “For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.

So please take the time to ponder over this note that was sent to me. Think about your friends and the gift of their friendship. Get to know them better and allow them to know you better. I have made a conscious decision to value everyone who comes across my path because ithey may hold a key to my destiny. It’s time to breathe again!

Clay Balls

A man was exploring caves by theSeashore. In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake. They didn’t look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.
He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it cracked open on a rock . Inside was a beautiful, precious stone!
Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left.

Then it struck him. He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!
It’s like that with people. We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel. It doesn’t look like much from the outside. It isn’t always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it.

We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy. But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person.
There is a treasure in each and every one of us. If we take the time to get to know that person then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth.
May we not come to the end of our lives and find out that we have thrown away a fortune in friendships because the gems were hidden in bits of clay.

I am so blessed by the gems of friendship I have with you. Thank you for looking beyond my clay vessel.


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Glorya Bolden